“Spring passes and one remembers one’s innocence. Summer passes and one remembers one’s exuberance. Autumn passes and one remembers one’s reverence. Winter passes and one remembers one’s perseverance.” ― Yoko Ono https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/aging Many times, bladder and bowel problems go along with aging. My birthday is this week and to be honest with you, aging has been…
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I am interested in learning about how chronic infection can cause emotional drain and physical soreness. Recent medical evidence has reported that despair and a wounded spirit can be caused by infection. During my years of undiagnosed urinary retention, I kept busy and tried not to give into the lethargy I felt. I worked and…
All the world is full of suffering. It is also full of overcoming. Helen Keller Have depression? What you can do to help. Many years ago, I was diagnosed with neurogenic (under active/paralyzed) bladder and bowel. Because the unfortunate tidings were hard to accept and process, journaling and blogging became my routine. On the web,…
Question: Dear Trudy, I would like to be part of a support group of neurogenic bladder. I am very concerned about it as far as the urologist advised me to self-catheter twice a day. I am in shock. My husband is helping me right now but I have to get used of it. Also I am…
10 ways to find your joy Find joyful books, How about, Marley and Me? Find joyful people. Celebrate what you have, even the little things. Be creative. Help another. Organize a drawer. Take a load to Salvation Army. Stay away from the news. Forgive past grievances. Think of something that you can smile about. MY…
Hello all. I am a XX year old woman recently diagnosed with Neurogenic Bladder. I have a long history of UTI’s and urine retention which I chose to ignore for way to long. So now I am left with a bladder that does not contract at all. I have no neurological issues, feel healthy otherwise. But am told I need to self cath for life. I am looking for some inspiration from some women that have the same problem. The day to day is killing me emotionally. Any positive input would be great as I am new to this!
I assume you self cath….for how long have you been doing this? Fortunately I have been infection free for a while. Beside the normal bacteria in my urine from the self cathing. All 3 Dr’s I have seen said that is normal and as long as I have no symptoms of infection I am good to go. So fingers crossed that it continues this way. I want to lead a normal life again, although it is now a new normal.
As far as the antidepressants, I really just started them so I have a feeling it will be a while before I am off them. I was never depressed a day in my life. The actual anxiety is what kills me. My ultimate wish is to be this strong woman that prevails and continues a normal existence. But I know it will take time.
I am sure this is all in your book which I purchased on Amazon yesterday. But just looking for the inspiration….so for that I thank you! Just your responding to me is huge!
You are exactly who I write the book for. I wrote it for me too. We women who have questions and are searching. I hope you will find answers. When I was first diagnosed my burning question was how did this happen to my body?? You will find all of the causes that we could find. When you see all the causes you must understand that you are not alone, unfortunately you have a condition that many choose not to talk about.
Let’s start a conversation.
The depression will get better for you I hope, it did for me. I have a whole depression chapter in my book. It is a grieving you need to do. You have lost something and you are feeling the loss. Someday I hope you will wake up and feel like it is your new normal. Please seek help. Being alone with your despair is not good. Share with your doctor and someone close to you.
It does not make the bladder infection pain go away or the inconvenience any easier, I know. Greif is hard,
“Watch your way then, as a cautious traveler; and don’t be gazing at that mountain or river in the distance, and saying ‘How shall I ever get over them?’ but keep to the present little inch that is before you, and accomplish that in the little moment that belongs to it. The mountain and the river can only be passed in the same way; and, when you come to them, you will come to the light and strength that belong to them. ” – M.A. Kelty
“The world breaks everyone, then some become strong at the broken places.” – Ernest Hemingway
Healing Path Quotes
Let me tell you what I started doing. My kidneys are not doing so well because of my back to back infections. I experienced depression, as well, that was heard to shake, not long ago. So on Sunday evening I started serving food at the local homeless shelter. I am not kidding this is better than anything for my depression. This simple volunteer job has helped me with feeling appreciation for all that I have, and helps me to take my mind off my body.
I hope you will find a solution for yourself and find what works for you. Most important is, do not give up.
I was invited to speak at the 2nd International Congress on Under-active Bladder – CURE UAB, Denver CO. 12-3-15.
CURE-UAB is the only meeting dedicated to underactive bladder. The conference should help to create awareness for the aging UAB. The goal of CURE-UAB is to dramatically increase public awareness and translate research results into clinical care that will improve health outcomes in older adults.
I was invited to speak at the CURE UAB Symposium because I write about the underactive bladder. I am also a patient. I use an intermittent catheter, my kidneys are wearing down. I am a patient, but I refuse to be quiet because our voices need to be heard. I feel thankful to have an opportunity to share the patients voice.
I am one of 5 million people in America with bladder problems.
I feel humbled and honored to stand before you and right now.
Thank you for making this a priority.
You are working to make my life better and others as well.
Try to think back to a time when you faced a life changing
situation that you wanted to run from.
I want you to understand this walk I am on and to get an idea of my challenges.
To see that it takes a lot to have my head held high in a society, that finds it is acceptable to make jokes, about a life threatening, sometimes humiliating condition.
I want you to understand why I write a blog and have written a book about my paralyzed private parts.
My Early Symptoms were gradual over a period many of years…
•My urine flow became weaker and weaker
•At times I had bowel accidents as I walked
•I was lethargic and depressed but luckily for me I was working as an elementary PE teacher so I had little opportunity to give in to how tired I felt. My symptoms just made my job really hard.
•Food did not taste good
•Had a pain in the side of my body that would not go away.
I went to several doctors was offered stool softeners, antidepressants for irritable bowel syndrome and depression.
This condition is difficult to diagnosis
Last Saturday I attended my very first meeting of the Palm Springs Writers Guild. Our Guest Speaker was Ms. Sheryl L. Roush founding member of Speak and Market like a pro She was a very motivating speaker. She gave us an outline and tools to write for our own speaking engagements explaining our books. That night I was so motivated by what I had learned, I went nocturnal and completed the steps she taught us.
I selected my main thought, ISOLATION NO LONGER, came to mind. Then I brainstormed ideas from my main point. I followed her out-line, and wahah… Here is my explanation, well some snippets anyway, of the book waiting to be published for you.
Heart Disease is the #1 killer of men and women, worldwide. The heart is a vital muscle that beats every minute of every day, morning and night; we know we must eat healthy and exercise to care for it. I myself spend a great deal of time and expense caring for my skin — it…
During the years that my body was going south, the pain and not knowing why, I felt a little like I was giong crazy. Depression was a real part of my life. Even know, I can feel blue. I thought I would share with you all how I try to combat that sinking feeling.